Dear Abby gives advice to a mother who repeatedly gets called by doctors offices for her kids appointments — even when her husband is listed as the primary contact.

The dentist is particularly bad. They have my husband listed as the main contact. He’s the one who makes all the appointments and takes the kids. My name is listed only as an emergency contact — but they still call me with all the reminders and schedule changes.

My husband and I have four kids, so there are many, many appointments to make and keep. We both have full-time jobs, so we split up the responsibilities by category; I get the pediatrician visits, and he does orthodontist and dentist.