DEAR ABBY: My siblings and I are estranged. I live in a different state. My brother and I never got along and stopped speaking many years ago. My older sister and I, after a long, toxic relationship, finally had a blowout after Dad passed. We haven’t spoken since. My younger sister took my older sister’s side and doesn’t speak to me either.

I have communicated briefly via text and email with all my siblings regarding my parents’ trust and final matters. My sisters still insist on texting me birthday wishes. Because of this, I feel obligated to send them a birthday text as well.

Dear Abby gives advice to a person who is estranged from their siblings — yet still exchanges birthday texts with them.